Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Some things change and other's don't.

I can't help but laugh out loud! My husband Dan went out of town for a few days and when I told Mom, she said " Oh my! Is Eric or Zach going to come and stay with you? What are you going to do? You will be all alone!!"  Mom often makes comments like this and she is completely serious. The thought of me calling my adult sons and telling them they need to come home and stay with me because my man is out of town makes me laugh out loud. I can't help it!

How things have changed! In just one generation, things have changed a lot! 

 She says things that are completely sensible to her and completely absurd to me. 
" It's getting late! What have you planned for dinner? Dan will be getting home soon. What will he eat?"

" Don't you need to do the ironing? What will Dan wear to work?"

Here's one she mentioned lately that totally blew me away!

"Perhaps your friends husband left her for another woman because she was not a good sex partner and was refusing him. Men have urges." 

That one didn't make me laugh, it irritated me. "Mom??Men don't necessarily go out on their wives because they are not good sex partners and not giving them any, in fact most the time it's the same reason as when women have affairs. Women have urges too!" In response to that, I get a confused blank look.

Is this worth discussing? No it's not. My mom grew up in a different time and was a wonderful home maker and loving wife and mother. I really appreciate that and I am certainly lucky to have such a wonderful mom. I have worked full time outside the home for 35 years and I don't think I have been a neglectful wife or mother, only a different kind of wife and mother. Some things change.

This all makes me wonder?  When I am 87 years old, what will I say to make some nice younger woman laugh out loud ? What will I say that will make them irritated? I guess when that happens, I'm going to give them that confused blank look.  It works well and it's really not worth discussing.

 Some things change and other's  don't.

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